Kids Need Both Mom and Dad, Says Gay Man Opposed to Gay Marriage


The benefits of intact biological families were emphasized on a “Building a Marriage Culture” panel at the National Review Institute’s 2013 Summit, “The Future of Conservatism.” One of the panelists, Doug Mainwaring, spoke of his personal experience as a gay man who came to realize that his own children need both a mother and a father.

“For a long time I thought, if I could just find the right partner, we could raise my kids together, but it became increasingly apparent to me, even if I found somebody else exactly like me, who loved my kids as much as I do, there would still be a gaping hole in their lives because they need a mom,” Mainwaring, co-founder of National Capital Tea Party Patriots, said.

Mainwaring is now living with his ex-wife so they can co-parent their two teenaged sons.

“I don’t want to see children being engineered for same-sex couples where there is either a mom missing or a dad missing,” Mainwaring explained. “Somebody needs to stand up for the rights and needs of children in an age when the selfishness of adults seems to be trumping those rights.”

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  • Amen! The rights of kids to have a mother and father are being taken away by the people who think there’s nothing wrong with this kind of arrangement.

  • txagsw

    Wow, an adult!

  • Thank you for being a grown up and putting your family first! PTL!!!

    • Dragun

      If family is first then why are you hyphenating instead fo taking your husband’s last name and being one name one family?

      • caskinner

        Are you serious???

      • You really are oblivious, aren’t you? Even Christian women in many places in the world, keep their maiden last names…Uganda, Ethiopia, some tribes in South America. Amongst the Icelanders, patrinomics and matrinomics are the norm; thus, a boy is given a name and the patrinomic of ‘—son’ with the name of his father going into the spaces before son, and a girl is given a name and the matrinomic of ‘—dottir’ with the name of her mother going into the spaces before dottir. When married, neither changes the name at all. Amongst many Native American tribes, the children take on the sur-name of the mother…Navajo for one. And do NOT throw CHRISITAN at me on that one. Changing of name after marriage is CULTURAL, not Christian.
        Here, the last name changing goes back to the European idea of wives becoming the ‘posession’ of the husband. In England, a man could even sell his wife, until in the 1700s (NOT an acceptable action, by the Good Lord’s teachings) if he led her to market with a rope tied around her neck. I’m a Chrisitan, and I did take my husband’s sur-name, but I know it is simply cultural, and cultures change. So, if my Navajo friends choose to take their husband’s name..fine, but if they don’t…fine. If one of my daughters chooses not to take her husband’s sur-name…I’ll be fine with it.
        YOU need to stop judging others by culture, instead of the Bible.

      • Boisenoise

        Maybe because she still respects and cherishes being a part of the family that raised her?

        • GeorgiaG

          And women who take their husband’s last name don’t?

      • Cher

        Wow that’s a bit judgemental. Many hyphenate for diff reasons. I do it to honor my father who is no longer here and to honor his legacy. My fam and marriage will always be 1 as Christ has made it..

      • It is totally irrelevant. Just a tradition. In the middle east, they all keep their own last name.
        In Egypt, the last name of the son is the name of the father (not his last name)
        In the Czech republic, they add “ova” to the last name of the woman after changing it, to show that she is a female.
        So, what would happen if all of them started saying, that because we don’t do it their way, that it means we don’t care for our families as much as they do?

  • caskinner

    This man has the courage to speak the truth. People need to live their lives as God intended. He is the authority.

  • Lynn

    An unselfish parent. Very rare even in heterosexual marriages.

  • 9thID

    Be assured that the homofascist cabal will come after this guy like they have Boy Scouts, Chick-fil-A, and even the FRC shooting…

  • suechurch

    Bravo, sir! I think the phrase “somebody else exactly like me” is very telling. It shows the adolescent narcissism inherent in homosexuality. Thank God for the will to overcome our faults!

  • Mys77

    Homos need to realize, trying to force the issue that they are normal is a demonic lie. They aren’t and they will never have a life of normalcy…. and that includes the raising of children. You know you see gay couples with babie and toddlers and they think everything is just peachy….but until those kids start to grow up and become teenagers with their own thoughts, ideas, and feelings, there is no way to comprehend how these kids really feel about being with 2 homos or 2 lesbians. So, that feeling of NOT being normal is pushed onto innocent kids…. and that isn’t a cultural or social problem that can be fixed because homos push for laws and indoctrination, ect…. it is innate to reject, disdain, and be repulsed for this perverse homo lifestyle. It will never be accepted, never be okay, because deep down inside there will always be that voice that says homosexuality is wrong, it is wrong, it is wrong.

  • It’s very good and refreshing and encouraging to hear this from a man who is caught up in this behavior. He should be interviewed by ABC, NBC, CBS, NPR, CNN, FOX. He should be asked to testify in front of the nation via congress.

    • caskinner

      Can you imagine what the radical homosexuals would do to him? It would be ugly.

  • HammerDoc

    “Somebody needs to stand up for the rights and needs of children in an age when the selfishness of adults seems to be trumping those rights.”


  • MaximusBraveheart

    “Somebody needs to stand up for the rights and needs of children in an age when the selfishness of adults seems to be trumping those rights.”

    Same with abortion… no rights. Choice to murder & then they wonder about what causes a violent society. The selfishness and godless values are the source of violence, abortion, and all types of immorality.

    • Cher

      Wow.. To all those that are reading this and have had an abortion, know that with Christ u can be forgiven & healed & God very much lives u. Some individuals haven’t been there & tend to let pretty harsh things come out of their mouths.

      • MaximusBraveheart

        I agree with you: “know that with Christ u can be forgiven & healed & God very much loves u.” I changed “lives u” to “loves u’ as I think that is what you meant. Freedom comes from Christ. Things you can overcome, but not by yourself. People need to hear the truth as they absolutely don’t realize it is murder, pre-planned homicide of an innocent and fully helpless person. Way more helpless than even the Newtown children. Violence in society does not just breed out of no where. A kid growing up knowing their mom or their own girlfriend, killed their bother, sister, or own child, either outside their power or through their choice affects their overall values and thought process. IMO it is pretty clear that selfish people who don’t truly value life and have little moral guidance will more likely become violent when they don’t get their way. An angry empty person sometimes lashes out and takes others down with them. Love of God, family and truth is the answer. Others will say there is no truth. Clearly there is if you look.

  • disqus_v2yFKlPfST

    You are all sick and need to go to neo-nazi meetings where you belong and leave us alone.

  • Irby Smith

    Way to go Mr. Mainwaring. Actually if we can get people to realize the importance of the original family unit staying together our society would improve.

  • babygirl85

    I understand that this is the way that one person feels. However the real question is how does he and his ex wife get along. If you are arguing and fighting and the child is around to hear or see it than you did nothing for the child. What about being unhappy your whole life just to hope that your child is given what you hope is a good enough home. There many heterosexual couples that give a lot of attention and love to their children and have rules that they enforce and yet the child ends up growing up and making all the wrong choices and ends up in jail. There are plenty of single parents out there that do a lot better that heterosexual couples. I have seen gay couples that have children that are 17 and 15 and they are happier than most. They are well mannered one is a cheerleader and the other plays on the football team. They are popular in their school and has never had a problem with making friends and for that matter the friends parents only request that was ever made was please don’t display affection in front of my children while they are staying the night there. The lack of intelligence on people shocks me. I believe in God and I also believe that God created us in his own image so why would he set up 4% of the population of the world for failure. Each parent and person has their own belief on what is best for their child when it comes to disciplined and ways of life. It is not our right to judge, it is the Lord’s job. Offering guidance is one thing but judging is another.

  • Robert

    My 15 year old daughter is stuck in a 2 mom no dad household, I love support and cherish her . It rips my heart out for her to be stuck in this situation. Every child needs a Mom and a Dad .

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