There were a number of questions from the post “Teaching your children to behave is not the Gospel.”
The topic is challenging because one of your main objectives is to teach children to obey. Let me clarify. Biblical obedience has as its core a love for God. Behavior change has as its core a desire to make things better. This is a profound difference.
Deuteronomy 6:7 is often taken out of context as a reason for focusing on behavior change. Regarding God’s commands, the first part of the verse says:
“You shall teach them diligently to your children…”
Allowing this sentence fragment to direct the focus of parenting can lead to an emphasis on behavioral change. However, if we place this fragment into the context of verses 5-7, an entirely different emphasis emerges:
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children,…”
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