Leading with love is not an optional performance package to go along with basic parenting. This is basic biblical parenting. God and his word are special, precious treasure. Nothing else that we possess can begin to compare in value to knowing God and his word. (Psalm 119:72; Proverbs 3:15)
Thus, leading with love is a not a lofty goal that should you hope someday to possibly achieve. Rather it is a command of God. Stealing is not something that we hope one day to leave behind. You won’t find someone at church happily announcing to others that she is making real progress with learning not to steal; “why yesterday I only stole twice.” But when it comes to raising voices or speaking sharply with children, this is exactly the sort of logic that is used. “I used to yell all the time, now I hardly ever do it; well almost hardly ever.” This is thought of as progress. Well, in one sense, I suppose it is. But this sort of progress should be looked upon with repentance, not something to share as an accomplishment.
Proverbs 1:8&9, teach that instructing children is like placing fine jewelry around their necks. Children are to be adorned with the word of God. Again, adorning children is not an extra credit, optional assignment. Adorning children with biblical wisdom is what sets biblical parenting apart from the controlling parenting of the world.
As always, when God commands that something be done, he also supplies the means for carrying out his commands. In this case the means of adornment is to be done with pleasant words. Proverbs 16:20-24 says pleasant words will promote or enhance instruction. Pleasant words point to peace, wisdom and understanding. Lack of understanding leads to folly and punishment. Pleasant words are not idle, fine sounding words of sophistication. They are the words of everyday life to be embraced with all of our heart.
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